Get Off the Thrones of Spiritualism
Written By: Mistress Ravenfyre
Why is it that one must attempt to cover up their true feelings in order to protect another’s? Is this the way that it is supposed to be all the time? When is it appropriate to announce that we are tired of feeling like a rag in a pile? Are we to ignore our inner voice in order to save another the pain to swallow our own at all costs due to our chosen spiritual path?
Sometimes our feelings must have validation from others. Not to make us whole but to allow us to feel that we have something. Giving and taking is the ideal, yet it is not 100% done in any relationship. There is always someone or something that gives a little more and takes a little more.
Pain is something that we all must go through a time or two in our lives. I do not mean the pain of loosing people or things but true pain. The type that you wonder why it is our Lords put before us. Is it a cruel joke or is it a lesson that we must learn from? Seeing the pain in others is so much different than going through it ourselves. We can offer words of solace to those but for ourselves we allow self pity, doubt and eventually anger to seep into our emotional buildings. How do we stop this? I do not think that we are able to. Not unless we each become harden non caring individuals. Egotistical sub humans so to speak. Is this the way to go?
Why do we feel the need to validate others feelings while letting our own go by the wayside? Are we truly turning the other cheek or merely masking our inner feelings for another day to have them pop up like toast in toaster? Unexpectedly intruding upon our lives. The more we push away the more we have to deal with later on. Facing these experiences head on is not what we like to do. So why do it?
Those that have taken the way of the spiritual path try very hard to be above the ugly, irrational emotions. Facing each and every trial as a personal enhancement. Yet are we really doing this? Are we fooling ourselves hiding behind the skirts and pants of our chosen deities? Hoping for relief, expecting guidance. Blaming this and that on those that do not understand. Who of us has not blamed another for our own actions due to the fact that we did not want to accept the responsibility of our own personal failings? Waiting for the Gods and Goddess of our choice to send a sign of how to resolve the issue. Some wait years never receiving said sign. Still waiting. While others sit and take heed of their own personal failings.
Yes, I did it.
Yes, I said it.
Yes, I meant it
Have you said these statements above? Or had them said to you?
What is the point of accepting the blame when you are not able to state these truthfully to another? Why must some individuals blame their failings on those that have tried to help them? Their words are harsh and harmful. Their lashing out do to their own unresolved issues stings like an open wound. They or even yourself may only say one of the statements, but not mean it. Step up when you are doing something fully. Accept the blame and the responsibility of your actions and words.
I hear you do you hear me?
This seems to be the most common down fall in any type of relationship, whether personal or professional. The hearing and listening to what is being said. We are all guilty of this. Although this is another aspect of our personalities that we do not like to admit to. Especially when we are hearing things that we do not wish to listen to. Hearing those spoken words that which are harsh, harmful or demeaning (whether they are meant to be or not) is something that is hard to sit idly by and listen to with our mouths closed and ears open. Fear of hearing what we do not wish to hear. We shall defend ourselves at the time and later seeing that there was truth being spoken regret not sitting in silence. Is there a way in over coming this? Yes, but it takes practice and patience. One has to really listen and “hear” what is being spoken. Not putting their own meanings into view. After all it is whomever speaking that has the feelings they need to get out, not just you. Be quiet. Listen. You might hear something valuable to you both.
How many holes in our emotional make up can we fill?
Are we ever clear from this pain that we have enter our lives? No, that is the only answer that I can come up with. All the protective shields that we project can not keep us safe from these painful experiences. Try as we may they happen. Loop holes can not protect us either. We can of course choose not to let anyone or anything come close to us. This will deter some pain from our lives but what would we then gain? Nothing. Each time we feel pain, sorrow or loss we know that there is still life inside. Failings which happen can be looked at under a microscope to see the common source. Maybe a cure can be found. In each emotional slaying there is a lesson. After the roller coaster ride of emotions has leveled out one is ready to heal and face the inner soul searching that needs to begin.
Sitting above the crowd
Sometimes we as spiritual individuals place ourselves higher than those that are not where we are. Listening to those explaining their feelings we try to see a higher essence in their madness of the time. Is there really one to be had? At times there is not. It is plain and simple anger, hurt or sorrow that is coming forth. Yet, we sit on our thrones listening trying to come up with something spiritual to say or even think. What are the right words to say in order to make the other person feel good and ourselves at the same time. Repressing what we would like to say we may something we hope will be thought provoking during the communication. Maybe this is not the time but slipping into the role is as easy as putting on an over coat. Forgetting that we are still individuals, knowing that we must be spiritual at all costs. Only later, sitting alone does the flood of what we really should have said come to our minds.
I am one of those that sit on a throne thinking there is always a lesson, always a meaning in every situation. After all I do mentor those who seek guidance shouldn’t it flow into my personal life as well? Shouldn’t I always have some spiritual revelations to tell? Aren’t I supposed to lead by example even if it hurts? In situations isn’t it my task to try to take away others pain and push mine aside? Disecting my feelings at a later date and time for further exploration.
Maybe it is time for those of us that have decided to seek the higher realms to get off our thrones for awhile and get with the real world emotions. I for one am planning on putting my throne in storage for a few weeks. After all, any chair is comfortable once we adjust to it.
Making the right fit
With that in mind I ask each of you that have chosen the similar path as I this question. Have we in our personal lives lost touch with simply being? I am implying being just ourselves? Not portraying one that has been touched by a deity or had some vision of bringing good to the world, just letting our hair down for awhile and being mundane.
Our emotions are looked at differently. When hurt, stressed, angered and a mixture of other emotions enter into our lives we automatically request guidance. Guidance to making ourselves better. To let us know what to do. How to use this feeling in a good way. What is the meaning behind this situation? There are other questions we ask but those are just to name a few.
How about this for a change?
When things come into our lives or others around us, how about using thoughts such as these:
That situation came out of no where and that is where it is leading
Meaning: It happened. Nothing more or nothing less should be read into it
I hurt because of the events and the hurt will go away with time.
Meaning: That is explanatory on its own. Deal with it. Don’t whine and complain, see it, feel it and move on.
Things happen and there is no hidden message
Meaning: No signs, symbols or messages given. Don’t interpret it as having such.
I learned not to do that again.
Meaning: Lesson taught. Lesson learned. Nothing spiritual there. Just life.
Strength in Learning
I do believe that we are able to learn from most of life’s experiences. Not everything is a spiritual learning but it is learning just as well. That is the important thing here. Learning. Learning is the real power that we have. The knowledge that we gain is spiritual enough at times. We can actively make the choice, the right choice with thought and care. Not impulse thinking but true thinking. Weighing everything out and then deciding. We have many avenues available to us that enables us to take life’s lessons and use them for the good of ourselves and those around us. Looking at each major situation and asking the questions of ourselves on did we do or not do the right thing.
Maybe if those of us that are thought of as mentors, teachers, or personal guides would approach things on a personal level we would move further along the path.